In one of my favorite books, FireStarter Sessions by Danielle Laporte she has an exercise that asks you to define how you want to feel. Start with a list of feeling words and just ask yourself how you would like to feel on a daily basis. Hey ... It’s harder than it sounds!
Now you take a few days to ponder this and begin to narrow your list down to about 5 or 6 feeling words that you REALLY want to feel on a daily basis.
In completing the exercise, I realized that one of my feeling words is ‘appreciated.’ I love doing things for others and I really like making a difference, but WHY do I do that? Well, the fact is, I like to FEEL appreciated. It feels good.
Maybe this is why I love working with seniors so much. I am able to do something that makes a difference for people who in turn appreciate what I have done for them. They aren’t required to...I certainly don’t ‘expect’ them to, but they do. Nice.
Have you ever needed something pulled down out of a cabinet or help changing a light bulb? I have. Usually I call my husband or someone taller than me to help out. After they do, I am so appreciative. They helped me do something I could not do myself.
Older adults often find themselves in positions where they physically just can’t do what they used to be able to do for themselves. They want to. They know how. Their physical bodies just don’t cooperate anymore. When you help them out, they appreciate it. Just like anyone, right?
Well, I have found that this hasn’t always been true in my real estate career. Even now as a coach, I have clients who frequently tell me that they are thinking about getting out of real estate because people are so rude and unappreciative. Now this is a whole different blog post, but it does seem that our older generation is just more grateful.
Do you like to feel appreciated? If so, offer yourself to others in areas where they could use a helping hand. Allow them to appreciate you. It feels nice.
Oh, and don’t forget to appreciate them back for appreciating you. It’s a two-way street.
I would certainly love your feedback about this topic. Do you find that our senior adults are more pleasant to work with or is it just me? I am open to the idea that I may be biased!
|Nikki Buckelew is the Founder and CEO of the Seniors Real Estate Institute and administrator for the Certified Senior Housing Professional® (CSHP) designation. A veteran REALTOR® of over two decades, she holds a bachelor’s degree in gerontology and a master’s degree in counseling psychology. As a professional speaker, coach, and trainer, Nikki is committed to empowering, equipping, and educating real estate sales and senior housing professionals seeking to better serve the mature market segment.